On August 4th 1996 we had just come home from a day at the lake. There was a note on the tv that said...Ron has been in an accident go to the hospital. We joked and joked about how we were going to find him. Broken leg? Broken arm? Something more serious? When we arrived we heard his parents saying things to him like "come on Ronnie, talk to us." What? He can't talk? Needless to say the next 2 weeks were full of ups and downs, highs and lows. On Thursday August 15th he had improved enough to move from ICU. Within 2 hours of leaving ICU he had taken a turn for the worse and was back. 13 years ago today we said goodbye. With Mr. Fish and I and his family surrounding him he drew his last breath. Our dear friend Ron.
Mr. Fish and I got married on November 2nd 1996 and Ron was to be our best man, he never made it there on that day because on August 18, 1996 a drunk driver took his life. Belinda was her name and she had been drinking and was driving 80 mph in a 35 mph without any headlights at 2 a.m. She made a decision that rocked all of us to the core.
We named our beloved Dory after him. We keep in touch with his brother (Mr. Fish's really good friend) and his wife. We keep in touch with his daughter who was 4 at the time of the accident. His parents have both since passed away.
On our way to the zoo today (even though it was so hard for me) I told Dory and Crush the story of our friend Ron. They were both really taken aback, they couldn't believe it. They had a lot of questions, I have a lot of questions.
Mr. Fish has never had a best friend since Ron died. If you ask him today who his best friend is, he will tell you it is me. I love that but also it makes me sad because he doesn't feel like Ron's shoes could ever be filled and this is why he hasn't tried.
This has been an emotional day for me, always is. Today though Mr. Fish isn't here to comfort me, he is out of town. He called tonight and we talked about Ron for just a few minutes as we do every year. Some may forget but not us.
7 comments:
I'm so sorry for your loss!
Thinking of you, my friend. Love & Prayers...
I'm really sorry you had to go through and still feel this great loss. Love and prayers to you and your family.
I do know how you feel and I'm sorry. Last October, we lost my husband's cousin to a drunk driver. He was a well respected police officer in Michigan who devoted his entire life to trying to get drugs off of the street. How ironic for him to be taken by that very thing. :( He was only 43 and left a wife and five children behind. We still can't believe that it all happened, and still can't believe he is gone. :( It' so, so hard.
Beautifully written and I'm so sorry for your loss.
What a touching tribute. I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my best friend when I was a sophomore in high School....I've NEVER found anyone to replace her either. I have several friends but not the best friend I had in her. I'd have to say my hubby too now. I know what your going through. Mine was in 1986 and I still have a hard time on that day...
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